Comments on: Different http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285 Mon, 28 Jun 2010 05:16:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Jesa McGinty http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285&cpage=1#comment-5940 Jesa McGinty Tue, 10 Nov 2009 20:11:16 +0000 http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285#comment-5940 My thoughts are with you.Every tear I've shed since reading this is a tear I hope you don't have to. Nothing will ever be the same, but it will get better. My thoughts are with you.Every tear I’ve shed since reading this is a tear I hope you don’t have to. Nothing will ever be the same, but it will get better.

]]> By: Krissa http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285&cpage=1#comment-5938 Krissa Sat, 07 Nov 2009 16:34:25 +0000 http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285#comment-5938 Thinking of you guys and your families today. Will be keeping you all even closer to my heart on the 11th. (((Hugs))) Thinking of you guys and your families today. Will be keeping you all even closer to my heart on the 11th. (((Hugs)))

]]> By: middle-aged-woman http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285&cpage=1#comment-5937 middle-aged-woman Thu, 05 Nov 2009 20:48:09 +0000 http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285#comment-5937 Mike, I can't find your email address, and I am hoping you will contact me. I am trying to arrange something special for you and Heather. It's a promotional thing for Friends of Maddie, that I would like to go up next week on the 11th. Please e-mail if you have a chance-- Thanks, Mary .-= middle-aged-woman´s last blog ..<a href="http://unmitigated.typepad.com/unmitigated/2009/11/my-new-true-love.html" rel="nofollow">My New True Love</a> =-. Mike, I can’t find your email address, and I am hoping you will contact me. I am trying to arrange something special for you and Heather. It’s a promotional thing for Friends of Maddie, that I would like to go up next week on the 11th. Please e-mail if you have a chance–

Thanks,

Mary
middle-aged-woman´s last blog ..My New True Love My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Duff http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285&cpage=1#comment-5912 Duff Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:33:40 +0000 http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285#comment-5912 I'm so sorry for your loss. And that's one of those things that people say that falls so hugely short of what is needed, it's pitiful. But I really am sorry. The thing that strikes me about grief is how the world can continue to go on for others while one is facing it. I have been the lunchline you, and the nephew you, and that's as far as my empathy can take me. But I do think it's wonderful that you can allow people their inability to say or do the right thing. And you remind me that anyone who has ever fallen short of providing comfort to someone who is grieving has the best intentions. .-= Duff´s last blog ..<a href="http://mymomgenes.com/2009/10/21/the-best-working-mom-blog-giveaway/" rel="nofollow">The Best Working Mom Blog Giveaway</a> =-. I’m so sorry for your loss. And that’s one of those things that people say that falls so hugely short of what is needed, it’s pitiful. But I really am sorry.

The thing that strikes me about grief is how the world can continue to go on for others while one is facing it.

I have been the lunchline you, and the nephew you, and that’s as far as my empathy can take me. But I do think it’s wonderful that you can allow people their inability to say or do the right thing. And you remind me that anyone who has ever fallen short of providing comfort to someone who is grieving has the best intentions.
Duff´s last blog ..The Best Working Mom Blog Giveaway My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: WM http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285&cpage=1#comment-5904 WM Sat, 10 Oct 2009 07:28:11 +0000 http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285#comment-5904 Death changes everything. And grief is so individualized. It is hard to know how to respond or what to say or what the person really needs. I always worry about saying something stupid in situations where someone has lost a loved one. But what I can do is to offer support in whatever way you need or want it. I think about you and Heather often. Mostly I'm just wishing you peace. hugs! .-= WM´s last blog ..<a href="http://becausedammitimustblog.blogspot.com/2009/10/celebrating-my-favorite-breast-cancer.html" rel="nofollow">Celebrating my favorite breast cancer survivor</a> =-. Death changes everything. And grief is so individualized. It is hard to know how to respond or what to say or what the person really needs. I always worry about saying something stupid in situations where someone has lost a loved one. But what I can do is to offer support in whatever way you need or want it. I think about you and Heather often.

Mostly I’m just wishing you peace.

hugs!
WM´s last blog ..Celebrating my favorite breast cancer survivor My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Kristen McD http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285&cpage=1#comment-5899 Kristen McD Wed, 07 Oct 2009 16:52:59 +0000 http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285#comment-5899 Thinking of you and your family today. Thinking of you and your family today.

]]> By: Issa http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285&cpage=1#comment-5898 Issa Wed, 07 Oct 2009 15:21:43 +0000 http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285#comment-5898 Mike, I just wanted to come and say that I'm thinking about you guys today. Sending tons of love your way. .-= Issa´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/issascrazyworld/tGWX/~3/W9bQxCJ46ic/" rel="nofollow">Remembering Maddie</a> =-. Mike, I just wanted to come and say that I’m thinking about you guys today. Sending tons of love your way.
Issa´s last blog ..Remembering Maddie My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: gypsygrrl http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285&cpage=1#comment-5888 gypsygrrl Tue, 29 Sep 2009 02:32:25 +0000 http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285#comment-5888 the funny thing with grief? no matter WHO we have lost, we are truly never the same, even if its only a silent place in our heart that isnt the same. grief is forever. if it didnt last forever, it would mean our love for the person we lost was somehow lessened or diminished. we go on and learn to live in the new reality, and how to function with the missing them. i know that i only know you and heather thru this computer screen, but my heart has been changed by the loss of your smiling beauty called maddie, and in my own way i feel her loss in this world. maddie is carried in so many peoples hearts whose faces you wont ever see, whose voices you wont ever hear... but perhaps as a legacy to her shining blue eyes and that pretty grin, we can take with us the lesson to love fiercely and in the now and not wait to tell those we love how much we care... this is what maddie reminds me of. much love, gypsy the funny thing with grief? no matter WHO we have lost, we are truly never the same, even if its only a silent place in our heart that isnt the same. grief is forever. if it didnt last forever, it would mean our love for the person we lost was somehow lessened or diminished. we go on and learn to live in the new reality, and how to function with the missing them.

i know that i only know you and heather thru this computer screen, but my heart has been changed by the loss of your smiling beauty called maddie, and in my own way i feel her loss in this world. maddie is carried in so many peoples hearts whose faces you wont ever see, whose voices you wont ever hear… but perhaps as a legacy to her shining blue eyes and that pretty grin, we can take with us the lesson to love fiercely and in the now and not wait to tell those we love how much we care… this is what maddie reminds me of.

much love,
gypsy

]]> By: Shannon Kieta http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285&cpage=1#comment-5879 Shannon Kieta Fri, 25 Sep 2009 12:17:39 +0000 http://thenewbornidentity.com/?p=285#comment-5879 Mike, Last September, a week after my beautiful daughter Abbie was born, my 53 year old sister was diagnosed with small cell Lung Cancer. The doctors told her she had 4 months to a year. They said if she did Chemo and Radiation, she would live a year. Well, she did all her Chemo: all her Radiation, lasted through the Holidays and on the morning of Janurary 3rd, my phone rang. It was my mom. She said my sister was being rushed to the hospital because she had Cardiac Arrest. She never made it. We never even had enough time to process the fact that she had the Cancer, and she was gone. I still remember her being at my house on Christmas. She was sooo happy to see my daughter. She held her the ENTIRE day! I have so many beautiful pictures of her that day! Especially ones of her and my kids. I know these Holdays are going to SUCK big time, but they must go on! But no matter how sad I am....Your pain is a boat load more! Losing a child is a whole different pain. Dearest Mike, I hope one day your pain will leesen, perhaps when Binky arrives. That is why Maddie gave her to you. To help you both throught this horrific time. Now is the time to start planning the arrival of your precious new baby...without guilt!!! Maddie would NOT want you to feel guilty about being happy to meet your new daughter!!! Trust me, that little girl is the reason that baby is here! You and Heather are a strong couple, you should be proud of yourselves for coming out of this together. Most couples fall apart...you both seem closer than ever....Kudos to you!!! I hope everything gets better for the both of you, and you can enjoy a little bit of this pregnancy!!! Shannon Mike,
Last September, a week after my beautiful daughter Abbie was born, my 53 year old sister was diagnosed with small cell Lung Cancer. The doctors told her she had 4 months to a year. They said if she did Chemo and Radiation, she would live a year. Well, she did all her Chemo: all her Radiation, lasted through the Holidays and on the morning of Janurary 3rd, my phone rang. It was my mom. She said my sister was being rushed to the hospital because she had Cardiac Arrest. She never made it. We never even had enough time to process the fact that she had the Cancer, and she was gone. I still remember her being at my house on Christmas. She was sooo happy to see my daughter. She held her the ENTIRE day! I have so many beautiful pictures of her that day! Especially ones of her and my kids. I know these Holdays are going to SUCK big time, but they must go on! But no matter how sad I am….Your pain is a boat load more! Losing a child is a whole different pain. Dearest Mike, I hope one day your pain will leesen, perhaps when Binky arrives. That is why Maddie gave her to you. To help you both throught this horrific time. Now is the time to start planning the arrival of your precious new baby…without guilt!!! Maddie would NOT want you to feel guilty about being happy to meet your new daughter!!! Trust me, that little girl is the reason that baby is here! You and Heather are a strong couple, you should be proud of yourselves for coming out of this together. Most couples fall apart…you both seem closer than ever….Kudos to you!!! I hope everything gets better for the both of you, and you can enjoy a little bit of this pregnancy!!! Shannon

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