Comments on: Predeceased

By: amanda

amanda — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 02:01:30 +0000

I think reading these words and even imagining your own are not wrong or morbid, we wonder and dwell. But, I’d be lying if I didn’t get a little harsh and say it’s awful and inconceivable that a parent should ever have to wait. I am so sorry and admire whatever it you do to make it through each day.

Here’s to events that will make people smile, though starting with Madeline, they;ll already be smiling.
amanda´s last blog ..Living in Sugar Land

By: Francesca

Francesca — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 14:30:43 +0000

I read them too and my husband thinks it is strange as well. Their life on this earth was important and I feel like it is a way to honor that persons time here. Think about you guys daily and send love and strength to you each and everyday!

By: Childwoman

Childwoman — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 11:57:14 +0000

My tears spilled on the keyboard reading this post. I dont know what to say to make it better…

I wish this was a terrible dream, and you would just wake up one day…

Hugs

Childwoman~
Childwoman´s last blog ..You are a boy

By: Ellen Fitz

Ellen Fitz — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 09:41:17 +0000

Mike,

As far as I can remember my aunts and uncles always read the obituaries. They called it the “Irish Sports Page”. I too find them interesting for the stories they provide.

As for your own and how it reads, only time will tell. Maddie lives on in our hearts.

Take care….

By: Krissa

Krissa — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 08:18:29 +0000

Thinking of you guys and sending (((hugs))).

By: Kristin

Kristin — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 16:27:40 +0000

Mike,
I found your blog maybe a little over a year ago and became a quick fan! Slowly your enteries became less and I didn’t check in as often. After searching thru my bookmarks last night I saw yours and thought I’d check in to see if you’d posted anything new. Apparently. And it seems crazy, but I’m sitting here with tears streaming down my face to find that your sweet, sweeat, beautiful girl is no longer in your arms. I don’t know you, your wife, or your precious little girl, but I’m wrapped in pain for you.
As a mother of two, it makes me stop in my tracks and wonder how I’d be if something were to ever happen to either of my babies. I can’t say for sure how I would feel, what I would do, how I would react. Put its painful enough to just imagine it, so I can only imagine just how much pain you and your wife are in.
I just wanted to let you know that you’ll be in my prayers. I am the praying kind and believe in it, no matter if you aren’t or not.
I pray that time will ease the pain and that time will never diloute your memories or your love for Madeline. I pray that your new baby will not replace Madeline but only remind you of the love that you are able to provide for a child.
Rest easy in knowing that you will love your new child, just as much as you love Madeline. It won’t be the same, but completely different. There’s no way I can compare the love I have for my two children. There’s no way to quantify the love. Its just love.
I’m truely sad to hear about the passing of your daughter. No one should have to feel such pain. I do not believe bad things are caused to us to make us learn something, but I do believe that when they happen, in time it helps us to appreciate the good. Like the sunshine after the rain.
You will be okay.
Kristin´s last blog ..on being happy

By: eliza

eliza — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 13:22:08 +0000

I like the suggestions above. Maybe write your own obituary now just for the peace of doing so?? Maybe too depressing of a suggestion. Rest easy as to bink. You will love him equally and that love won’t detract from or change how you feel about maddie. The way you love each child is that same immeasurable bottomless well of love. Not to worry. It just happens. Bink can’t take away your grief. Your love for him/her will be its own and just as overwhelming. I promise. From a total stranger.

By: Molly

Molly — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 18:29:55 +0000

Thinking about you guys every day and sending good thoughts. I’m sure having another baby on the way makes things endlessly complicated but the fact that you are already thinking about these things before Binky’s arrival shows that this little guy is in good, sound, thoughtful hands. You and Heather are great parents and will be great parents again. Truly.

By: Rach

Rach — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 13:39:44 +0000

Your love for this new baby will be just as intense, just as overwhelming, but DIFFERENT. There will be no way to compare the love you feel for Maddie and the love you feel for this baby.
Rach´s last blog ..nothing

By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 19:31:07 +0000

F’in sucks that is what your obit will read. It shouldn’t ever, ever be that way. You have every right and reason to rage against it. Big, big hugs.